Family · kids

Life with boys-The lessons

Boy: (noun)

1. A noise with dirt on it. 2. Most precious to their mothers

My boys–if you know them personally-you would know how sweet they can be. LIke-OMG melt your heart-sweet. And lawd have mercy can they be sour. Yup.  I have sour patch kids.  I think all the little people are though. Right?

When people ask me, “Whew, how do you do it? How do you keep up??” My answer to ANY of the boy questions–  “They keep me on my toes.” Its so true! These kids keep me laughing, and my heart is so full.

Speaking of my heart being full, in a parking lot a couple months back, an older woman and her husband walked past me in the parking lot. (Target parking lot-of course) And she yells as she is going by, ” Wow, you have your hands full with those two.” Now, in theory, she probably didn’t mean anything by it. But at the time, it  struck me as funny, and I answered as she was walking away ” So you can imagine my heart, ” with the happiest smile I could give her ๐Ÿ˜Š I can’t help but think that she wouldn’t have said that if I had had 2 girls. Why do people automatically assume life with boy is so rough? Now dont get me wrong, it has it’s crazy moments. Ok–more like crazy months-but really-all in all-its amazing.

And I have to say, these boys have taught me so much as a mom. And as a person——-Patience being a main factor. Now this one I am still trying to master, as patience is the virtue that really screws with me. (Pardon le French.)  I am not a patient person. I do not like to wait on people. I hate when people don’t show up on time, and I hate that it takes 20 years for my kids to exit the car. (Yikes TMI.)

Now you know my serious downfall. Please don’t judge me. I am working on it. I pray about it. But having these little people around has really taught me I have to be more patient. That I need to slow down….. Really-I have to walk slower. (Everyone tells me that–“Brandi SLOW DOWN! You are walking too fast!!! Which is quite hysterical, because I am a pudgy little thing with thick legs-but for whatever reason-they walk fast.) And really, it’s slightly ridiculous. I am in the grocery store for heaven’s sake-why do I need to be flying???

Seriously though, back to my point. I have realized patience is something you have to work on as a parent CONSTANTLY and these little ones are teaching me every day. When I am reading to them. When I have to wait on them to potty. When we go the park. Everything is a lesson-and they are teaching me!

Next lesson: Kindness

I have noticed since having these little monsters, I am looking for reasons to be kind. I want them to grow up treating others with the utmost respect–and I want them to help others to feel good about themselves. I have noticed, they pick up on our actions so quickly–and the not-so-good ones will stick quick. So I am doing my best to SHOW THEM kindness, not just preach it. So far, I think we are doing ok at this parenting job and teaching them to be half-way decent people.

Walking up a flight of stairs last month, Cash saw a pretty blonde its a gorgeous emerald lace dress–looks at me and says,  ” MOM-She was pretty.” The lady looks back at him and her face LIT UP. “That was so SWEET!” She walked away glowing and I knew he gave her a smile she would wear for the rest of the day.

And it isn’t just that–it’s Ford calling our 80 year old friend “My friend Neil.” It’s when he wants to hug someone just because. Its every time one of these littles says “Mom I love you” out of nowhere.  #melt btw. It’s hearing them tell another child “I’m proud of you” when they accomplish something they were working on. It’s them wanting to help their Dad in the garage and the sense of pride in themselves afterward.

They truly are amazing and kind hearted little people–and I hope others see that in them as well. The more I see them be kind, I want to do the same–and I tell you what-seeing these little guys in action can pull me out of a mood in the blink of an eye. I’m telling you-amazing.

And love. Y’all, you don’t know love like this until you have kids. I’m telling you– something about these guys makes me change the way I view everything and everyone. It’s phenomenal. Now, I’m not saying if you don’t have kids you don’t know love–that’s not true. Before my kiddos came along, I could promise you I loved my husband more than anyone could ever love anything. Come May 9, 2012. Ford entered this world after 19 hours of labor–and I loved something more…For a second. But seeing the way my husband loved this little person that we made–made MY love for this tall man from Ohio grow deeper.  It’s really just a circle people. All the love flying everywhere… You know those little circle diagrams with smaller circles coming off the one big circle in the middle? That’s like the love–starting with big circle in the middle, and as time goes on the love spreads to other people. That’s the best way I can describe it. (I know, pitiful ‘eh?)

But really, on the bad days, try to look at your little people and see the lessons they are teaching you. There is almost always something there. Even if they are being downright jerks–we can learn something-like–don’t lose your cool in Target Momma. You got this.

At any rate, I just felt like sharing a little about my good-hearted little guys and hopefully get some feedback from you all! Tell me about your littles! I love getting your emails and hope they continue. Everyone who doesn’t mind—feel free to answer in the comments! If you want to keep it private (some have and I love that as well) just shoot me an email!

All the love dolls ๐Ÿ’‹

 

Deals · Deals · Fashion · kids

One of the best Dollar Tree Finds….And It’s a MUST HAVE.ย 

Hey there friends!

This has been such a crazy month for me–and I am loving it! We have been keeping ourselves busy spending time with family and friends, spent the last weekend at a 3 day bible convention (so refreshing) alll the summer fun outside, party planning, our bible ministry, etc. All exciting stuff . ย ๐Ÿ˜ฌ

One of the main events taking up my time this past month? Jack and Jules . Not familiar? It is our local children’s consignment that comes around twice a year…..and I LOVE it. It’s time consuming but SO WORTH IT. It’s a great way to sell your children’s gently used clothes/and to grab some great deals for your littles. (Let me know if you want a blog post on my hanging/pricing process!)

At any rate, I wanted to share one of my tried and true time savers–and this will work for anyone–especially those of us who hate to iron.

I am not going to lie, when my kids outgrow their clothes, I throw them in the bottom of the closet (sometimes they make it in the ย ” I’ve outgrown It box”, sometimes they don’t.) Nonetheless, they are wrinkled. To the max. Every one of them.

That being said, I think I have found the holy grail of wrinkle reducers, and it’s cheap as dirt. Literally, maybe cheaper than dirt. ( NO joke–try potting all the plants around your house. Its pricey.)

Once again, Dollar Tree has come to the rescue. This wrinkle reducer y’all–all the praise hand emojis..Here. Let me throw one in here just for fun. ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป.. It’s bomb. Do the kids say that anymore? Someone fill me in.

Notice what it looks like here…..

Now promptly leave your house, and go grab a bottle.

It smells so fresh and clean–and it’s so simple to use! Evidently it is the off brand of Downy, which I didn’t realize existed. But I’m telling you, it can’t be much better than this.

Just spray it on your wrinkled item, and give it a pull. Pull the clothing on each side, and then top and bottom. It’s awesome! Notice the difference in this shirt.

Beforeย 

After

Ok please don’t fault me as I forgot to spray the bottom of the shirt, ( I was so excited to share with ya people, per the usual) but isn’t the difference AMAZING????? SO MUCH EASIER than ironing.

I also am a huge fan of the “throw it back in the dryer with a wet towel” trick, but sometimes there just isn’t time, ya know? Add in the nice scent boost with it, and you have a solid champ in this wrinkle releaser.

The price point can’t be beat for the time it saves you!

Do you use a spray on wrinkle releaser like this? What is your take on it?? Let me know in the comments!!!!!

Diy · Family · kids

DIY Tassel Earrings

Y’all, I can’t be the only one here obsessed with the tassel earring..I take that back. Tassel EVERYTHING trend. Its so whimsical and I love a good statement piece. I also LOVE a bargain. Combine with my innate need to create as many things as my little brain will allow, and we have, my dears, tassel earrings. 

But really, this actually isn’t a DIY post. It’s more of a “repurpose it” post. And I couldn’t wait to share with you….Now some of you all may think I am crazy. And you are totally allowed to laugh, but some of you are going to say ” borderline genius” when you see this. 

So I really wanted to go out and buy some thread and make my own earrings, but when I saw this, I just had to try them out. I grabbed some—wait for it—WINE CHARMS at my local bargain hunt. You can see these actually came from the Target One Spot, but bargain hunt somehow gets the items that didn’t sell and sells for a better price! I love Bargain hunt btw. Search your area for one, and if you can’t find one, come visit me. We will take a trip ๐Ÿ™‚ 

When I was shopping, the earrings I had on, had the exact same setup as the wine charms. I then proceeeded to compare the size of the metal, and it was the same! So instead of making my own, I bought these. And now I am wearing wine charms in my ears as my statement piece. Really, no one would ever know unless I told them-which of course I promptly do every time I get a compliment. (I can’t help myself. I love to share my crafty ideas with everyone! ) 

My set came with 6 charms, or 3 pairs. (Hmm…I’m thinking to include them in a giveaway soooooon) So if you find some you like, keep a pair, then share some with friends! 

The first night I wore them, I got so many compliments and you will too! Now I will say, if you have sensitive ears, this may not be the way to go for you. I can usually wear allll the cheapie earrings (thank goodness) and these didn’t bother me at all! Look at how cute they are !!!!

So if you decide to try this yourself, make sure you:

  1. Check to see that the metal part that goes in your ear is small enough to fit. 
  2. Isn’t so heavy it weighs you down. (Saggy earlobes? Eww.)
  3. Don’t have sensitive ears
  4. Share with friends! 

What do you all think about this? Isn’t it a fun change of pace? 

Family · Home · kids

Summer Bucket List

You guys–school starts in August. How did this happen? How do I have a FIVE YEAR OLD? How is he starting KINDERGARTEN? Ugh. While someone helps me figure that out, I decided I wanted to share with you our Summer Bucket List! These are things i really want to accomplish before my kiddo starts school. 

It’s so hard to plan to do things (especially when your Hubby is a total homebody) but I am DETERMINED to do some fun things before its just me and “Crash” all day every day. (A friend of mine calls the little guy “Crash” instead of Cash and I think its hysterical.) 

So here it is! The List. Get ready. Get set……

  • Splash pad (Visit at least 3 different ones)
  • Go to a park on the Lake 
  • NASCAR Speedpark
  • Visit a Children’s Museum
  • Plant some veggies
  • Paint Pottery
  • Go to a water park
  • Visit Chuck E. Cheese (Yea-were crazy. I know.) 
  • Tubing on the river
  • Go to a drive-in
  •  Take a Hike
  • Have a water balloon fight
  • Buy ice cream from a truck
  • Go berry picking
  • Have a breakfast date
  • See the $1.00 Summer Movies

 We already planted a few plants in April, and TODAY we finally harvested some peas! The boys were SO PUMPED to pick the peas!!! I think this is a great one for everyone to try. I have been trying to get the littles to try more veggies and I think this may be a good way to start–get them involved! 

We plan on going to the drive-in tomorrow night. (Pray for me y’all. The movie wont start until after 9pm. My kids are going to be a mess!) 

We also have already visited one splash pad. We ALMOST visited 2 pads, but ugh the first one wasn’t running, so I guess we can’t count that one. Anyways, 1 down, 2 to go!

I am so excited to already be crossing some fun to-do’s off the list (And I LOVE TO MAKE LISTS/cross items off) and hope by the end of the Summer, we have crossed every one of these off the list! 

I know you can look on Pinterest and see THOUSANDS of ideas to keep you busy this summer, but I really wanted to make a list catered to our family, and do things we wouldn’t normally do.  I also wanted to keep it realistic!

 What would you add to this list? Any fun things you want to accomplish before school starts? 

Family · Home · kids

Kids have bad days too…. ย (short read)ย 

We all have bad days, right? I mean–don’t talk to me, I am in a bad mood days. Don’t you dare say that rude comment you want to say right now-because I will bust you days. Don’t even THINK to speak to me right now, or I might FLIP MY LID days. They happen. 

And then we have the days, where we are emotional wrecks. Sometimes, all we need to do is have a good ol’ fashion cry-it-out. Maybe we have a reason to be upset. Maybe we don’t. But as adults, we roll with it. If someone else is having “a day” as one of my old teachers used to call it, we can coddle them. Or we can take a step back and  give them their space. We just do. Its protocol. 

Now children on the other hand, are not allowed to have bad days. Or so most adults think. And this seriously KILLS ME! Kids are allowed to have terrible days too! It happens! They may not be able to relay EXACTLY how they are feeling to us, or what happened to put them in such an emotional state, but they do have bad days! 

Talking with a friend today reminded me of this. She said “One time a while back, you told me that kids can have bad days too..and I had never thought of that. Adults have bad days all the time, why can’t kids??!!” Next came her “Mind blown” gesture. 

 But really, I don’t think we let kids have bad days enough, and that slightly makes me feel bad as a Momma sometimes. We want our kiddos to be tiny model citizens–and that isn’t happening when they are having a meltdown in the aisle at Target. Or when the sweet little old lady says ” How are you doing handsome man ?” And all he can say back is “NO.” Cue my apologies “So sorry. We’re having a bad day.” 

I’ve learned that giving them those days are important-especially when papaw is wanting his high five and the kiddos won’t cooperate. “Just give them a little break. They aren’t having a good day.” Not that this is my excuse for them, but really—-sometimes they just arent’ having a great day! They haven’t had the training we as adults have had in controlling emotions. That is a trait learned over time and I think it’s something we all need to realize. It’s going to take time for them to get it! And at some point they will. This is why we don’t see grown men crying in the aisle over the mower they couldn’t buy that day. ๐Ÿ™ˆ

So for all you Mamas with teeny babies, just a reminder: They aren’t bad. It’s just a rough day. 

For all the older ones, whose kids have flown the coop, remember–Your kids had the same days. Cut those parents some slack!!! 

For all of you who dont’ have kids–Oh just wait. Your time is coming. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

So please, let’s try to understand these little humans big emotions and try to help them through them! It’s a learning process for us all. Keep this thought in mind and maybe next time the breakdown comes, we can take a step back and remember–It’s just a bad day!!!! 

Chin up buttercup ๐Ÿ˜˜